Tough Love for Adult Empaths

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Written by Brigette Cormier

Written on July 14, 2020

Many people have forgotten the power of their word and the power of choice. Many powerful human beings have forgotten that they have an energy field that protects them and serves as a psychic barrier that reads and projects energy frequencies. I see some very powerful human beings making choices, and self-identifying with and using language that, force them into low vibrational realities and hinder their spiritual evolution. I hope this article can remind you of some truths that your soul already knows. I love you! -Brigette

In my spiritual opinion, the constant narrative that empaths suffer for the greater good is bullshit. It holds an energy that speaks of allowing yourself to suffer because you think it’s the right thing to do, and it stinks of disempowerment and lack of spiritual sovereignty. If we do not *disallow* low vibrating spells and narratives from continuing to perpetuate in our minds and language, then we’re letting the self become a pawn to the dark, letting the self be fed on by other people’s demons, and letting the self be drained by other people’s energy and emotions. If you’re fueling and feeding demons and low vibrating energies, then that’s not 5D, because the first law of 5D is self-love (a.k.a. emanating the self as love). So if it’s not 5D, then it’s not going to contribute to your spiritual evolution out of 3D and 4D.
I hope this article will remind and inspire you of some soul truths to realign you with empowerment and spiritual sovereignty. You can allow your inner power to come online and surge, and witness the greatness that is your spiritual evolution. It breaks my heart to see so many beautiful souls halting their spiritual evolution because they are convinced the self-abuse in “being an empath” is a “good thing” they “have to do”. It’s a scam! You deserve to feel good! From that high vibrating place of having a fortified energy field and not letting any external energy influence or affect you, you are at your strongest and at your highest vibration, where you can be the most helpful to your friends, family, and the collective.

(Learn more about demonic attachments here.)

Let’s open our minds and be more discerning with what narratives and language we identify with and let’s examine why we think it’s OK to invade other people’s personal energy fields, as well as why we think it’s OK to have our own personal energy fields invaded.

Firstly, I feel that most empaths are nosy and manipulative with their powers. Did the person who’s feelings you’re “empathing” consent to your invasion of their privacy? And as an adult, why do you “need” to empath another person’s emotions rather than simply asking them how they feel or if they are OK? And then, if the person doesn’t want to share that info with you, it’s their right (and you have that right with others as well!). It’s their emotion, their privacy, and you have no right to invade their personal emotional space, especially if they already have verbally expressed that they don’t want to share their feelings with you. Each one of us have the right to sovereignty over our energy fields and we choose what interacts with our energy fields, and who interacts with us. So to imply or act as if you can bypass other people’s right to privacy “because you’re an empath” is in direct opposition to that sovereignty, and is an act of covert aggression. That’s why I used the words nosy and manipulative.

Secondly, I notice many empaths often claim victimhood to their “uncontrollable” empathic skills. I see, here on the internet, many empaths using their words to describe their victimhood as an empath. Choosing to identify as that kind of empath, to use those words instead of exploring the heartspace and inner guidance of spirit to see what else can be done for the self to feel better is a proclamation of low vibration to the universe because it doesn’t put the self first. And the universe hears you and continues to manifest that low vibration for you. To proclaim that your energy field has no fortitude, to proclaim that your energy field does *not* protect you, and to claim that you involuntarily feel other people’s emotions is choosing victimhood and disempowerment. By saying those things, you make it so. Your throat chakra effects your reality. Just because you say something, and make it so for yourself, doesn’t necessarily mean it’s actually a divine truth. Instead it’s what you’re spelling about your self. I’ll explain these two points further.

The reason I’m adamant about how being a victim to your own empath powers is a choice is because we each have an energy field that protects us and prevents us from having to physically experience the rawness of external energies. Your energy field encompasses your body, and the perimeter of your energy field is what “senses” the energies around you and communicates that energy as data, to you. It’s a psychic experience. So if you choose to bypass the innate functions of your energy field, that is your choice. And it is a choice that self-sabotages your chi (life force energy) and lowers your vibration; the choice to ignore psychic feedback and data and instead force the body to take the brunt of sensing external emotional information/energy.

What I often see is, an empath in full victim-mode, acting as if they have no power over their own energy field, allowing all external energies to permeate their protective energy field and affect their physical body. This is a choice. It’s not comfortable, so why choose that? Why choose to be a victim to the energies around you? I often hear people who identify as empaths describing their experience as “suffering”, again I can’t help wondering why choose to use your powers this way if it causes suffering? Why *choose* to be a victim to your own powers? Maybe it’s because they think there’s no other way to function as an empath. So let my clarify, if you identify as an empath and if you’re physically feeling someone else’s emotions it means your energy field is not doing it’s job.

When your physical body feels another person’s emotions it means your energy field is not fortified. Our fortified energy field will inform us about the emotions of another (for protection, or divine intervention) as data that we can perceive with our mind’s eye; rather than actual emotional energy that pulverizes the physical body. The emotions of another person don’t need to hit our actual physical body because that’s the purpose of the energy field. The emotional energy of others hits our energy field and never touches our body. The energy field translates emotional (and other) energies into data that we sense with our mind’s eye, without draining our actual physical energy. The energy field can do all the work for us, sensing external energies, translating them into data, and communicating that non-emotionally charged data into our understanding, all whilst your body and chi maintain high energy levels and retain power.

If you let your body get hit with other people’s emotions, you’re forcing your body to feel and process emotions that have nothing to do with you, and it’s a waste of energy that drains your energy field. If they’re not your emotions to process, then processing someone else’s emotions, especially without their consent/permission, drains your chi. Choosing to let your physical body and chi be drained by feeling the emotions of others is often under the subconscious guise that you think you’re processing those emotions for them. But let me ask you, how exactly do you give them back those processed emotions once you’re done feeling them? You can’t. So you’re not even helping them by processing their emotion! You can’t ‘give back’ the emotions you processed for them. And so I reiterate, it’s a waste of energy, and it doesn’t actually help them. Instead, if you allow your energy field to do its job, then you gain the ability to sense with an innate “knowing” what another person is feeling, without feeling it, and then you can navigate, in your power, appropriately based on *what you want*. [Please note this advice is only true for adults.]

This is your life and your body, what do you *want* to feel and experience? Claim ownership and sovereignty over your body and chi.

If you can stop letting people’s emotions hit your physical body and let your energy body do that work instead, you will be able to know what someone is emotionally going through, without “feeling it” personally. You may realize that the person your energy field is sensing may need space because they’re healing, or that you need to get away from them because they’re on attack mode. You’re able to do what is needed to be done, because your chi is not drained and you’re not letting another person’s demons/emotional issues attach onto you.

So when I hear adult empaths complaining that about how tired they are, know that’s a sign that they either do not want to use their energy field properly, or they are unaware that they aren’t allowing their energy field to protect them.

Your energy field is highly intelligent and sensitive, it can sense energies far away and nearby, and it can communicate information about those energies to you as non-emotionally-charged data that can be mentally processed by you in a non-exhausting way.

Some empaths may have a problem with shifting their use of empathy because they like being nosy. They like to be “in” another’s experience and they are used to living in the low vibrations of victimhood and suffering; they may believe strongly that they are meant to suffer and so they continue to manifest behavior that makes space for suffering. If this resonates with you as you, then please know that it is your birthright to experience a full range of human emotion, not only discomfort and suffering. Trust that you are meant to experience joy and emotional strength as well, and that your joy and emotional strength can assist in fortifying your energy field to increase its impermeability.

An empath who chooses to create holes in their energy field so that they can physically feel the emotional energies from others is also making space for demonic and negative entities to affect them. Some emotions of low vibrations actually attract demonic entities, who continue to feed and fuel more low vibrational experiences. And so when an empath is not allowing their energy field to protect their body, and instead chooses to let another person’s emotional energy hit them directly, they are also accepting all of the demons of that person they are empathing. This is another reason why empaths feel drained a lot. They are constantly letting other people’s demons feed off of them.

Those demons feed off of you when you feel the emotions associated with them (such as hate, envy). This can be completely avoided if you stop forcing yourself to feel other people’s emotions physically, and start allowing your energy field to sense the emotional energy for you. Let your energy field translate emotional energy into data that your mind/intelligence and soul/intuition can process in a high vibrational manner, and then with your free will you choose what you want to do based off this information your energy field has given you.

If you identify as an empath who suffers from feeling other people’s emotions, I want you to know that there’s another way to live. You have an energy field that surrounds and protects your body that is also meant to process emotional energy for you. Your energy field senses and processes external emotional energy, and the raw emotional energy never hits your physical body. You’re able to maintain your vibration and have spiritual sovereignty over your body and soul.

Habits can sometimes be hard to break, but if your habit is to let yourself be constantly drained by the emotions and demons of others, understand that you are self-sabotaging. And only you can choose to be different, to allow yourself to experience life in a different way. This is your life, your soul, your body, and you have the power to choose how you experience it. So take a deep breath and start to sense the energy around you that emanates off of your body. That’s your energy field. It emanates 360 degrees around your body, off of your body, and at the edge of that energy field, is the psychic membrane that will start to take over the job that your “empath powers” are currently doing. Trust and let your energy field start to sense the energies around you and give your body and chi (life force energy) a break! Watch how your energy and strength grows once you stop forcing yourself to take on other people’s demons and emotions (especially without their permission! But why would you wanna do that anyways?!).

You exist within your highly intelligent quantum energy field and this energy field has many powers and abilities. First we need to make sure that our field is fortified and that we are paying attention to the data that our energy field is communicating to us. Empaths, you no longer have to open yourself up to attacks and suffering. I’ve given you a new way to use your powers.

Depending on how addicted/habituated you are to taking on others’ painful emotions and demons, you may feel as if you don’t have control over what emotional energy/demons influence you. So say this verbal affirmation out loud anytime you feel like an energy is trying to attach onto you: “I do not consent to external energies to influence or affect me in any way. And so it is.” After you say this, do *not* attempt to “feel” the emotion you just said that you do not consent to or it will make the affirmation null in void. Instead feel the sovereignty you have over your mind and body after saying the affirmation, and feel how powerful it is to know that you have power and control over what energy has access to your physical body.

Some people are truly addicted to feeling other people’s feelings in that nosy way. If they choose to deny their sovereignty consistently, they will not evolve into the higher vibrational planes. Trust that you have access to your own human experience, your own emotions, that can be just as exhilarating as the ones you feel from others.

When living in a state of suffering, the body is at risk of entering survival mode which is a very low vibrational state. Some people have no choice if they suffer or not, but empaths who *choose* to ignore the power of their energy body and instead take on the painful emotions and demons of others are choosing to suffer. To have another choice besides suffering but to choose suffering anyways, thinking it will somehow help someone else, is disillusioned self-sabotaging self-abuse.

When you stop allowing your energy field to be invaded by others’ emotional energy, you start to allow your energy field to sense the energies for you, and you allow your psychic powers to turn online. All humans have access to their psychic powers, because telepathy and the 6th sense of intuiting is our birthright. In fact, in the higher vibrational timelines and dimensions, telepathy is a regular form of communication. However, telepathy and psychic powers cannot be properly activated or utilized if a person is functioning as an empath in victim mode. Telepathy and psychic powers do not require that you let your body be hit by, or your energy field to be invaded by, other people’s emotional energy. In fact, if you energy field is not fortified and your body is not protected by that field, then it will be challenging to access your psychic powers and telepathy because you’re in constant physical discomfort.

How can the body truly ever feel safe and trust you to take care of it when you are constantly forcing it to take on the emotions of other people? How can your body trust you when it knows that you try to feel emotions that don’t belong to it and are sometimes painful. How can your body trust you if you let it be abused and drained by other people’s energy and demons? There needs to be a sense of trust between the soul, mind, and the physical self. If the physical body’s chi is constantly being drained, then your body is not being taken care of by you, and you risk lowering your vibration to the point of disassociating, a spiritual state where you are susceptible to an array of spiritual and psychological attacks. If your soul’s intuition is being ignored or being allowed to atrophy because you’re not using it because you’d rather physically take on other people’s energy than use your intuition to sense what they’re going through, then your soul will not stay present within the self, because you are entraining your vibration away from the soul.

Your choices determine your vibration, and your vibration determines the dimensional version of reality that you are interacting with. From a vibration of voluntary victim-mode, a chosen state of disempowerment due to lack of self-love and/or self-respect, the version of life that you interact with is innately painful, because you are interacting with the lowest dimension of life, hell on earth. If you choose to continue taking on other people’s emotional energy and demons when resonating at that low vibration, your life continues to feel drained of life force energy because the soul does not resonate inside the body anymore.

We bring the soul into the body when we raise our vibration. We raise our vibration the moment we choose to stop letting ourselves be voluntarily “attacked” by external energies, start sourcing our guidance from within the soul, and make space for, through conscious allowance, our energy field to be fortified and to do its job.

Self-love raises your vibration, for example, “I love myself and I don’t want to put myself through that which I know will be painful so I will figure out another way to be that doesn’t impact me in a painful way, I don’t deserve that pain.” So does self-respect, for example “I’m grateful for my life and existence, and I don’t want to squander the blessings I have around me by focusing on other people and their problems. I will be my best self when I’m focused on my self and making sure that I’m OK first.”.

It’s your job as a human adult to take care of yourself and make sure you’re not abusing yourself. The way you define yourself as an empath and accept the narrative that “I suffer” and “I feel everybody’s pain and discomfort” is self-sabotage and is an example of how what we identify with and the words we use can spell us into living in a lower vibrational dimension and version of life.

So notice 👁 what words you use to describe yourself. Each time you notice your voice is attempting to describe yourself as disempowered, know that you are spelling against yourself. Each time you notice your voice attempting to describe you as “under attack” or somehow negatively affected by external energies, again you are choosing that reality by spelling it into being with the power of your throat chakra.

I challenge you to proclaim that no external energies can affect your physical body. I challenge you to reclaim your true power. I challenge you to verbally proclaim that you do not CONSENT to any external energies affecting you in ANY WAY and watch how what you feel actually changes. Your voice, your throat chakra, and what you *choose* to proclaim and consent to is your first defense in fortifying your energy field.

So watch your words, notice your assumptions about yourself and how you are a constant victim to your own choices. Notice what you allow yourself to spell against yourself and start to reprogram the way you speak to actually help improve your life and vibration, don’t claim victimhood, claim empowerment! Don’t claim that energies are always affecting you – that makes it true! Proclaim that you have a fortified energy field and that no energies have permission to affect you, instead!

By taking sovereignty over your energy field and activating your psychic powers, and leaving behind the old narrative of the self-deprecating victim-of-the-world-empath, you can ACTUALLY HELP people because your ACTUALLY strong. You no longer will need to waste time healing and recharging your energy from the constant allowance of energy pollution to affect your physical body by letting all energies bypass your energetic field of protection.

I love you so much! And I’m so excited for us to start connecting with each other in a telepathic way. Your telepathy won’t come online until your energy field isn’t ridden with holes of your own making because you think it’s healthy and OK to take on the pain and suffering of others. Once you fortify your energy field and your telepathic and psychic powers activate, you will understand that the darkness in the world is still there, and you will be able to DO SOMETHING about it from an empowered place, because you know no matter how strong or evil the darkness in the world is: it cannot touch your high vibrating soul.

I hope this helps!

With love,
Oracle Brigette
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