Read below for Brigette’s newest philosophy!
“The Cult of Forgiveness” Parts 1 & 2 by Brigette Cormier
The Cult of Forgiveness
An irrelevant concept for those who participate in unconditional love.
To Participate in “forgiveness” one has to first have something to forgive. For someone to need to forgive someone, it implies they are holding something against that person.
But what about those who do not hold anything against them? What do they have to forgive? Nothing.
This is why I do not participate in the cult of forgiveness.
I unconditionally love and accept people. What they do, whether it hurts me or not, it is divine. It is a part of their divine life path to do that. I do not hold that against them, for doing what is divine for them. Even if it hurts me, I don’t hold it against them. So I have nothing to forgive them for. I do not participate in forgiveness because I do not participate in holding things against people.
I believe in God, in the universe’s divine timing of all things. All things that God lets happen is supposed to happen and I am not the one to judge those things. It is not my job to judge if what someone does is “good” or “bad”. I can certainly have the opinion if something is good or bad for me, but I would never imply that can judge it, I would never say that God “messed up” and “did a bad thing”. What God lets happen, happens, and I don’t hold it against God or those people that God is using as divine instruments to play out divine timing.
I unconditionally love and accept all people. As they choose to be, I accept it. If it’s not good for me, I stay away from it. But I don’t judge it, that’s not my job. To judge God’s creation is to judge God and I would never. I do not have the viewpoint, the perspective that God does, I do not see the greater plan of all things that God is orchestrating, so I would never imply I have any right to judge anyone, ever.
So I do not participate in forgiveness because I hold nothing against anything so there is nothing to forgive. I accept the divinity of all people, and if something isn’t good for me I certainly stay away from it. But in terms of forgiveness, I do not participate. I am not one of those people who hold things against others. I am not one of those people who judges God and implies that God “messed up”, where forgiveness is in order. If God let something happen, it’s divine, and I’m not holding it against anyone.
I am not one of those people who deny reality; that means that after someone shows me who they are, I don’t pretend they didn’t show me who they are and then give them “another chance” do to the same thing again. When someone shows me who they are, I believe them the first time and accept and love them unconditionally. From that place of non-judgement and acceptance, I’m able to decide and discern for myself if this person is someone I want to allow around me. I may decide that they’re not good for me, but that has nothing to do with forgiveness or lack thereof, and it rather has to do with my immense acceptance of them, and my acceptance of reality. I have no need to gaslight myself into thinking someone isn’t who they are – I believe them the first time without judgement.
When I look at the concept of forgiveness I see a box that others want to stuff me into. I see that others who want me to participate in forgiveness assume and project onto me the idea that I hold things against people, and they are wrong about that. I don’t hold things against people, I accept people wholeheartedly without judgement. I don’t need to give people “a second chance” to show me that they “didn’t mean” what they did; that is gaslighting myself and minimizing the sovereignty of others. Yes, they meant it, they did it, because that’s who they are, and I believe them; I hold nothing against them and I don’t think they did anything wrong. It is what they divinely chose to do with their sovereignty and they have that right to exercise their free will, as I do. And with my free will I choose to accept people as they are and I have zero interest in continuing to share my energy with people who aren’t good for me.
Just because I say that someone isn’t good for me, it doesn’t mean that I hold something against them. Just like how because I say I am lactose intolerant, it doesn’t mean I hold anything against lactose nor do I think lactose needs to apologize to me; I accept lactose for what it is and that it is not good for me because I cannot digest it. I accept my lactose intolerance unconditionally, and I also accept lactose unconditionally as something that isn’t good for me. It’s not a judgement, it’s a fact. It’s my body, my digestive track, and I have the utmost authority over what I put in my body, what I choose to eat. It goes the same with people. It is my body, and I have utmost authority over who gets to interact with me; this doesn’t make me judgmental, it makes me realistic. I accept reality, I don’t fight with it.
I accept reality, I don’t fight with it. I accept what people do, I see it, and I don’t have a need for them to change for me. I accept who people are and how they choose to be, and I reserve judgement and allow myself to discern if they are good or not for me based on my authority over myself and my sovereign power to not allow certain people to have access to me. I don’t hold anything against those people who don’t get access to me, however as the authority of me, I get to choose who is and isn’t good for me. I have that power, as you do too.
To imply that someone doesn’t know what’s good for themself, or that a person doesn’t deserve authority and autonomy over their body, is an act of violence upon that person. To expect a person to “forgive” and “allow” an abusive or unsafe person back into their life is an act of violence. To imply that people “deserve” forgiveness inherently because they are people is ignorance. People can choose to change or not. Pressuring someone to forgive someone else when there is no proof of change is violence against that person. Pressuring people to put themselves into unsafe environments and energy exchanges under the guise of “second chance” is violence. This kind of violence needs to be acknowledged and the collective gaslighting of abuse victims around the concept of “forgiveness” needs to be collectively rethought and evolved.
I rebuke the cult of forgiveness, that tricks victims into welcoming abusers back into their lives under the guise of second chances. I rebuke the cult of forgiveness that shames and guilts victims into welcoming abusers back into their lives under the guise of second chances. I rebuke the entire gaslighting concept of forgiveness that disrespects the logic and intelligence of people and asks them to forget what they saw, heard, and experienced in real life so as to believe a fantasy that the person who hasn’t changed, might change if you forgive them; it’s gaslighting.
If you do actually hold something against someone, if someone did something to you and you can’t unconditionally love and accept them for it, and move forward in your life without them, than perhaps you are still trapped in the cult of forgiveness. Perhaps you’re still hoping they will magically change even though they don’t want to. Perhaps you’re still hoping they will come to you and apologize and explain how they are going to change their ways. But in that space of waiting for them to apologize, you’re putting your life on hold. As long as you hold space for an abuser to come back to you so you can forgive them, you are holding space to be abused again. While occasionally people do change and truly feel remorse and regret for abusing others, even from that place of remorse and regret, they don’t actually deserve the presence of their victims. Even if they are sorry, no victim deserves to share space with the one who abused them.
Those who perpetuate the narrative that abusers and evil people deserve to spend time with their victims once they apologize and the victims “forgive” them, are perpetuating hell on earth. In hell on earth, people can do awful things and get away with it, perpetuating cycles of abuse and terror in our reality. In heaven on earth, people would never considering abusing or doing evil upon another. In heaven on earth, hurting someone on purpose is not an option. In heave on earth, there are no victims because there are no abusers. And so the only way we can start to collectively live in heaven on earth, is to stop uplifting abusers and giving people the opportunity to be evil because “forgiveness” exists.
If people want to be evil, that’s their right. But it’s my right to not allow those evil people around me. I don’t hold anything against these evil people, I accept them unconditionally. I see them, understand their choices, and I accept them. From that place of acceptance, I move forward in accordance and alignment with my health and wellbeing.
Concepts of forgiveness are often hard for people to stomach, hard for people to consider, because it’s simply not appropriate. What is the point of “forgiving” someone for being who they naturally are? What is the point of holding who someone is against them? Why wish for someone to be someone else? It’s not realistic and it’s incredibly judgmental to think that you know better than God. It doesn’t make sense to forgive someone for doing what they want to do, to allow them to continue having access to you, to continue being who they are, when they have already shown you that what they are is someone who isn’t good for you.
I do feel all people deserve redemption from God, that all people can be reborn while alive, and experience a spiritual awakening that has them realize what behaving in integrity really means. I do believe that evil people can find the light and become good people. I also believe that you forgiving evil people does not contribute to this happening. Evil people have to decide on their own, with their own free will, to be different. And once they change and they are different, no longer behaving evil, it is tremendously obvious.
One thing you’ll notice about these truly changed, redeemed by God, people, is they do not seek your forgiveness. Truly changed, redeemed by God people understand how bad their behavior was, and do not seek out their former victims for forgiveness. Because truly changed, redeemed by God people, understand the negative impact they had on others, because they are empathetic, and are not interested in continuing to disturb the peace of their former victims. While these redeemed by God people may work to gain back the trust of those they love, they do it through actions to change themselves, not through reaching out to the former victims directly seeking “forgiveness”.
It is not empathetic to go to your former victim and ask for forgiveness, that is gaslighting. A truly empathetic, redeemed by God person, will go on a personal spiritual journey of taking accountability for their actions alone, with God, and will seek out the therapy and professional spiritual healing they need, without ever once reaching out to their former victims for forgiveness. Victims’ forgiveness is not the “key” to their abusers’ healing and to act as if that is a fact is an act of violence against victims.
To know you have victims, and to conscientiously reach out to them, is innately abusive. Once you have abused someone, you no longer deserve access to them. If you really want them to forgive you, change yourself and learn empathy (with a professional if needed), because craving forgiveness from your victim is a sign that you actually crave to abuse them again. To crave the attention of someone you abused is a sign of a desire to further abuse them. It is only when a former abuser no longer craves forgiveness from their victims that they are redeemed. When a former abuser accepts that they lost access to their victims by abusing them, and understands that they do not deserve forgiveness because the damage is already done, the victims have to live with those memories forever. No apology, no forgiveness, erases a memory. The only way to never “need” forgiveness is to never abuse, and it is completely possible to live your life and never abuse someone.
The time of people pretending they don’t realize they are victimizing others is over. The time of acting like you don’t realize you’re abusing people is over. The time of accepting abusive behaviors from others is over. The time of forgiving people who keep hurting you is over. The time of gaslighting yourself and pretending what you see isn’t happening is over. Now is the time for heaven on earth. Now is the time to accept and love people unconditionally. Now it the time to see people for who they truly are and accept them, and to move forward from that place of love and acceptance. It is completely loving to decide to move forward in your life and disallow someone who is not good for you, access to you. The people you decide do not deserve access to you, have no right to demand it, and you do not owe them forgiveness as a magical get out of jail free card.
You have the right to live a life of love, that you love. You have the right to be unconditionally loving and accepting of all, and to never hold something against someone ever again, so that you can exit the cult of forgiveness and enter into heaven on earth. And so it is.
The Cult of Forgiveness Part 2
Going deeper into why unconditional love is higher than forgiveness.
Entangling Timelines with a Cursed Person
According to the cult of forgiveness, you need to “forgive” someone if you’re “holding something against them”. But why would you hold something against someone, instead of just accepting them as they are? Why would a person want to change another person to their liking, instead of allowing the consequences of their actions play out? Let’s look at Jan and Bob.
Bob did something that Jan didn’t like and Jan is having trouble forgiving him. She holds what he did it against him and wants to withhold her love. Because Jan want to keep a relationship with Bob even though she was wrong about what kind of person Bob is, she is considering forgiveness.
The forgiveness cult tells her that she should give him a second chance, but Oracle B tells her to listen to her love and where it’s going. Her love has withdrawn because she has realized that Bob doesn’t have the same values as her. She has realized that Bob is not a healthy match for her, and it’s time for her to move on. In this instance, it’s not about forgiving Bob, it’s about allowing the consequences of Bob’s actions to play out, and for Jan to continue to choose her wellbeing, and to make relationships with people who have aligned values with her. The forgiveness cult would tell Jan that she should sideline her wellbeing in order to give Bob another chance to prove himself, even though Jan knows he’s not the one for her, the forgiveness cult would shame and guilt Jan into forgiving him and giving him access to her once more. I hope Jan listens to Oracle B and decides to let Bob’s consequences play out, because those consequences are Bob’s karma.
If even though she knows that hers and Bob’s values don’t align, Jan chooses to stay with Bob and engage with “forgiveness”, Jan would be entangling her energy and her timelines with Bob’s and potentially cursing their future kids if Bob is a villain reincarnate and not supposed to have an easy life.
Entangling with someone who doesn’t feel right could be you ignoring the red flags that prevent you from engaging with, and creating a bloodline with, a cursed person. I think it’s wonderful if you want to have kids and create a bloodline but if you choose to have children with someone whose bloodline is paying for the mistakes of their ancestors, understand that your kids will manifest that karma and that same challenging life that Bob has. If you’ve already had kids with someone like Bob, it’s important to provide your kids with modeling through your healthy behavior and by teaching them ways to help them process and communicate their emotions, so that they have the best potential to transmute those issues passed down to them with ease.
Why Forgiveness Has a Lower Vibration than Unconditional Love
If you are holding something against someone, and dealing with that internal battle of not wanting to accept who they truly are, remember that is you battling with God. God made that person that way on purpose. That person may have an evil ancestor, that person could have been evil in their past life; you cannot change them, they are supposed to be that way, it is their karma to live with the consequences of their actions. It is beyond you how you want them to change to be better for you. You can better ensure their karma is paid by them and not passed down to their bloodline by allowing the consequences of their actions to play out. I advise you to continue to align with your wellbeing, even if that means not allowing that person as much access to you anymore.
Don’t entangle your energy and your timelines with someone through “forgiveness” once you realize that they are working out bad karma in a way that hurts you, and then hold it against them that they’re not acting how you wanted them to. Realize that their choices are a reflection of their true self, and if you cannot accept it, you might not be supposed to. Consequences are karma, and whatever karma they don’t pay, gets passed down.
Getting Into the Magic of It
Do you believe in past lives? Sometimes villains reincarnate as bad people so they can receive the consequences for their actions. When bad guys and villains reincarnate, sometimes they reincarnate as people that bad things happen to, and sometimes the bad things that happen to them are the consequences of their own bad choices. Consequences are karma.
What about ancestors? If you have a great great grandfather who was a mass murderer do you think some of his karma might befall you?
What about curses and demonic attachments? If an ancestor does not take accountability for their abuses before they leave the physical plane (die) that manifests as a curse on the bloodline, and moving forward justice is served through bad karma for the bloodline. The energy of oppression that your ancestors engage in and are never accountable for, those same oppressive energies get reflected onto the bloodline until it is worked out and someone starts taking accountability for it. Consequences teach people accountability. Forgiveness removes the healing alchemy of consequences, and potentially passes curses to children.
If an ancestor makes an agreement with a demonic entity and creates a lifestyle that feeds the demon, if this lifestyle becomes a culture that is passed down, the demon will follow the culture and all those who perpetuate it.
I say this to you not to scare you, I say this to remind you that people are the way they are, and act they way they act, divinely. It is divine how they are; their “bad choices” and all. Remember, you can’t prevent your ancestors’ past actions and have no control over the timelines that you have access to, so your best option is to align with the highest vibrational timeline possible for you. In this multidimensional reality we live in, with so many options for us to choose, the highest vibrations we have access to right now are peace, love, and joy. So choose those, as often as you can.